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stalking freedom: Stalking Freedom

Stalking is a known crime with a long and detailed history. With the advent of the Internet and expanding technology, stalking techniques have proliferated. The existence of electronic harassment and mind control stalking are new and controversial issues. This blog will not comment on electronic harassment or mind control stalking. Others will need to assess and address these issues.

Of course, all stalking is essentially an attempt to control the mind and the body of the victim. GASLIGHTING is one technique used by most stalkers to undermine the credibility of the victim. Gaslighting is a term that was originally the title of a play about the efforts of a man and his mistress to convince his wife and others that she was crazy. It can be an incredibly effective technique, much like the use of masks and simulated atrocities are used by ritualistic abusers to make young victims sound as if they are making up ridiculous stories or indulging in fantasy. An Italian study reported that approximately 70% of stalkers used gaslighting techniques. Uneducated people can then rationalize not believing the victim, and the seemingly absurd activities make the victims reluctant to tell family and friends about what is really happening to them for fear of not being believed. Gaslighting also makes reporting to already-beleaguered police nearly impossible. A stalking victim in New York whose stalker was eventually caught said, "How do you call the police and tell them you wore a white nightgown to bed and now there is a white one lying in its place? Or report that you were out of vitamins and now there is a full bottle on your kitchen counter?"

Gaslighting techniques range from small efforts to large scale attempts to control and silence victims. One example of small-scale gaslighting reported on the web and experienced by me is distributing small amounts of debris on the floors of the victim's home. I noticed this in my home and was savvy enough not to mention it to anyone. Then one day my cleaning person remarked while sweeping the floors, "Why is there all this dirt on your floors now?" I did not answer, but after that there was no more dirt and debris scattered on my floors. Other examples are taking silverware or dishes, moving pictures and furniture slightly but obviously, ripping holes in clothing in closets or drawers, scratching or damaging wood or painted surfaces in the victim"s home, leaving objects in the victim's home, car or place of business, stealing bills that need to be paid in the hopes that the victim will forget to pay them--the possibilities are endless. Of course, there is the ubiquitous car damage. A private detective who has worked with group stalking for 15 years told me that damage to cars was very common. I once drew circles with magic markers around all the scratches, dings, dents and damage to my car not done by me and then called the police. The officers were shocked at what they saw, took pictures and made the first (and last) case report of property damage. In the early days of being stalked I once spent over $3000 to repair the minor damages to the driver's side of the car, and three days later the side of the car looked exactly the same with the same placement and number of dings and dents and scratches. Car damage certainly cures stalking victims of attaching any status or self-image to their cars!

Larger gaslighting efforts are even more difficult to deal with. Identity theft, false crime reports, rumors spread to neighbors that you are a criminal are just a few examples. Stalkers have very low self esteem and have a poor sense of their masculinity or femininity, but they strive to repair their damaged egos by seeing themselves as clever and inventive instead of cruel and worthless.

After publishing this post, I will report back to you what has been done to "punish" me for disseminating this information. And I assure you there will be retaliation in the form of more frequent or more vicious stalking events. Not to do so would destroy the myth that the stalker is the ultimate "winner" in this evil crime. Not to be the "winner" exposes the vast emptiness of the stalkers interior lives.

Fact for the day: stalkers, like most criminals, are motivated in part by tremendous ENVY of their victims, so they try to cannibalize their victim’s lives. One of my now-deceased stalkers used to dress up so that he looked like me and go places pretending to be me. I first found out about it when he stole a skirt from a tall-woman's clothing store, and the manger tracked me down. I went in and she saw that I was only 5'2." Issue resolved.